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Originally Posted by Bhagwan
The latest take I have read about problem gamblers is...
Problem gamblers, generally, have low self esteem & have the psychological need to be punished.
Winning or losing does not really come in to it.
Punished?---go figure.
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Well, I'm not a psychologist, but I have extensive history in dealing with all types of addicts as part of my job.
There are two types of addicts only.
First type must get their fix everyday by any means possible.
Second type can go days weeks or even months without a fix, but as soon as they start, they cannot stop. (a bender if you will).
There are also combinations of the above, but they usually lean one way or another.
This applies to drugs, alcohol, gambling.
The addiction leads to low self esteem, it doesn't start with low self esteem.
In fact I would suggest that the greatest number of addicts I have dealt with have a common theme, they usually fell from a great height. (in other words, originally they had an increased feeling of self worth.)
That is why addicts become so terribly depressed, they fell from a great height.
The punishment issue is more to do with being stuck in a cycle unable to break free, learned behaviour that is like Groundhog Day.
They become addicted not only to the problem, but to the behaviour.
They are usually well aware of the addiction to the problem, but unaware they are addicted to the behaviour (thinking) as well.
So it's not all doom and gloom, I must say that all of the people who have been through this and come out the other side positively are quite remarkable people who are down to earth and very humble. They are quite exceptional to the average joe without an addiction. They have learned a valuable lesson and realise just how important other aspects of life are.
As I say, this has been only my experience working with hundreds of addicts in recovery centres.